Caitlin - glad to have gotten connected with you. I look forward to hearing from you and will check out your prior posts in the coming weeks. I've a development junkie myself. I own a wealth management business in Boise Idaho, and write on Substack about money and meaning. My muse much prefers offering insights on meaning than money these days. We help our clients identify "their meaningful life and purpose" and then align their finances with that. If you're inclined - you can check out my missives at: https://onmoneyandmeaning.substack.com/. I look forward to learning from you.
I'm so glad we found each other, James. I'm reading your posts on this Friday morning and they are very touching. I love how you find a way to weave in your questions with each of the topics. Please keep writing! And we'll be learning together.
Hi Caitlin, Thank you and I plan to do the same with your writing. I have other commitments today. Thank you for the encouragement. I am trying to finalize my next piece and hope to do so in the next week. I find being a full-time business owner, parent, and spouse to conflict with writing, much of the time. More to come.
Caitlin! Thanks for connecting. You suggested I tell you here who I am and what's lighting me up. Here are my answers!
I'm a retired higher ed admin (doctoral and faculty services), now building my business as an LCS-certified life coach. My offer at https://arthurpattonhock.com/ is a career coaching offer for humanists and historians, since there's so much drama about the job market these days. "What can I do with my PhD" is the question I help my clients answer. But honestly -- I'll talk to my ppl about anything on their minds -- love learning about what their researching, what their pain points are, etc.
What's lighting me up? I recently made a connection between "parts work" (not that I really know much about IFS except what you pick up on the street LOL) and the dance I see in myself and my clients between the unintentional and intentional models. When I first learned thought work I thought unintentional models = undesirable aka "bad." Not so! No bad parts, right?!? Curious what you think.
Your coaching offer is great - makes me think of Joshua Dolezal, Jen Polk, and others who help the PhDs.
Love that connection to the unintentional model. So many people want to jump out of what they are currently thinking and feeling into something "better" or "more pleasurable." It's what the human brain loves to do. But sitting and being with what's here, somatically and mentally, has so much power. I've trained a lot of new LCS coaches and I often encouraged them to not even TRY to make an intentional model with clients. Make space for what is there. Make space for all the parts. :)
My favorite of your recent vids: "letting go of 'if I do this, I won't feel that'" -- so powerful, and it relates strongly to what we're talking about above...
A gorgeous poem. Many of my clients work on discerning this with their personal boundaries. "Everything that is is welcome" doesn't mean having everyone over for dinner. :)
Caitlin - glad to have gotten connected with you. I look forward to hearing from you and will check out your prior posts in the coming weeks. I've a development junkie myself. I own a wealth management business in Boise Idaho, and write on Substack about money and meaning. My muse much prefers offering insights on meaning than money these days. We help our clients identify "their meaningful life and purpose" and then align their finances with that. If you're inclined - you can check out my missives at: https://onmoneyandmeaning.substack.com/. I look forward to learning from you.
I'm so glad we found each other, James. I'm reading your posts on this Friday morning and they are very touching. I love how you find a way to weave in your questions with each of the topics. Please keep writing! And we'll be learning together.
Hi Caitlin, Thank you and I plan to do the same with your writing. I have other commitments today. Thank you for the encouragement. I am trying to finalize my next piece and hope to do so in the next week. I find being a full-time business owner, parent, and spouse to conflict with writing, much of the time. More to come.
Caitlin! Thanks for connecting. You suggested I tell you here who I am and what's lighting me up. Here are my answers!
I'm a retired higher ed admin (doctoral and faculty services), now building my business as an LCS-certified life coach. My offer at https://arthurpattonhock.com/ is a career coaching offer for humanists and historians, since there's so much drama about the job market these days. "What can I do with my PhD" is the question I help my clients answer. But honestly -- I'll talk to my ppl about anything on their minds -- love learning about what their researching, what their pain points are, etc.
What's lighting me up? I recently made a connection between "parts work" (not that I really know much about IFS except what you pick up on the street LOL) and the dance I see in myself and my clients between the unintentional and intentional models. When I first learned thought work I thought unintentional models = undesirable aka "bad." Not so! No bad parts, right?!? Curious what you think.
Thanks, Arthur
Hi Arthur,
So glad you found me and my work!
Your coaching offer is great - makes me think of Joshua Dolezal, Jen Polk, and others who help the PhDs.
Love that connection to the unintentional model. So many people want to jump out of what they are currently thinking and feeling into something "better" or "more pleasurable." It's what the human brain loves to do. But sitting and being with what's here, somatically and mentally, has so much power. I've trained a lot of new LCS coaches and I often encouraged them to not even TRY to make an intentional model with clients. Make space for what is there. Make space for all the parts. :)
Looking forward to connecting more!
Joyfully,
Caitlin
My favorite of your recent vids: "letting go of 'if I do this, I won't feel that'" -- so powerful, and it relates strongly to what we're talking about above...
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Ooh and such a good reminder today for me too!
How about this? A poem by Dorothy Hunt
Do you think peace requires and end to war?
Or tigers eating only vegetables?
Does peace require an absence from
your boss, your spouse, yourself?...
Do you think peace will come some other place than here?
Some other time than Now?
In some other heart than yours?
Peace is this moment without judgment
That is all. This moment in the Heart-space
where everything that is is welcome.
Peace is this moment without thinking
that it should be some other way,
that you should feel some other thing,
that your life should unfold according to your plans.
Peace is this moment without judgment
That is all. This moment in the Heart-space
where everything that is is welcome.
A gorgeous poem. Many of my clients work on discerning this with their personal boundaries. "Everything that is is welcome" doesn't mean having everyone over for dinner. :)
Good point. I struggle with that too (external boundaries). I was just thinking of that phrase in terms of my affective experience.
So, this morning: shock and dread are part of it all...