What do we do when we have feedback for a team member that will probably be perceived as negative?
Today I’m sharing a quick tip for you leaders out there.
Adam Grant, the famous organizational psychologist, shared results from a research study where a particular phrase worked well.
Here’s the phrase:
”I’m giving you these comments because I have high expectations of you and I’m confident you can reach them.”
People are more open to negative feedback after hearing it said that way.
So you can certainly script that out and deliver it.
I’ll add that it matters what feeling you say the statement from when you deliver it.
If you try to read that statement to a team member when you’re feeling nervous, that’s what they’ll pick up on. The nervousness. They won’t hear your words very well.
Not a problem to feel nervous, but let’s work with the nervousness in our bodies, rather than try to push it down or ignore it.
That means taking some breaths, noticing sensations in my body, and grounding myself.
Then I can show up for my team member the way I want to as a leader.
I’m showing up connected and present for them, rather than disconnected.
Have you tried this phrase before? Share in the comments!
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